Happy New Year To You All!
Hopefully, with the gift of a brand New Year that’s been handed to us, we won’t abuse it or ourselves by making bad choices or foolish decisions, or the worst sin of all: taking our time here for granted!
The other day, I came across the following article, which, at first, amused me, then, disturbed me:
“A 99-year-old Italian man is divorcing his 96-year-old wife after discovering that she conducted an affair in the 1940s, reports the Telegraph.
The couple have been together for 77 years, but time was no healer when the husband, referred to by Italian lawyers as Antonio C, found evidence of the affair while rummaging through a chest of drawers. Having confronted his wife, who confessed to the affair, he is now seeking a divorce.
According to UPI, Antonio came across letters his wife had received from an old lover more than 50 years ago, making him suspect an affair. It is also reported that the couple have five children and 12 grandchildren along with a single great grandchild.
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Wow! Ain ‘t no fool like an old fool, right?
My questions: Does this man have a right to be so angry, so damned reactionary over something that occurred over half a century ago, when both he and his then YOUTHFUL wifey were young and foolish?
Does forgiveness have a timeline? Should it?
Can something we did or something that was done to us long, long ago still be allowed to come back and bite us in the ass? I mean, if it wasn’t as serious as, say, murder?
Exactly when does jealousy… insecurity, malice or possessing a super-fragile ego become utterly ridiculous?
Ponder… Share with me…
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23 comments:
Old dude must have been planning to leave for the last 40 years and finally got his reason. Other than that, then the answer to your question is yes, Old Fool!
Like Miz said, maybe he wasn't happy all these years and this was his impetus to finally end it. You just never know what's really going on in a relationship.
What's up with that last pic, Lin? Why is grandma topless?
Have a great, prosperous and healthy 2012, Lin!
WOW!
I would hope that at that point I would have the good grace to forgive.
let's hope we all believe in forgiveness, compassion, cooperation and LOVE!
Happy New year!
@Miz:
I never considered that. It would seem a tad more logical, especially if he were looking to escape a hellish, longlasting marriage, even if it takes harping on something that happened DECADES ago! Good point, Sista Pen.
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@ Val:
Thanks for weighing in, Val. The pic? Ummm... when I saw it, it spoke to me an an older love affair. Not erotic. Not obscene, just two older humans STILL being sexual. And don't forget, grandpa is also topless. *smiles*
Happy New Year To You, My Lovely Friend.
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@ Lovebabz:
Yes! My sentiments, exactly! Forgiveness might be hell on us to put into practice when we're younger... but damnmit! Old age is supposed to *teach* us something about LIFE, or else, what's the purpose in even getting older?
Happy New Year, SistaLo!
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Okay, I was just curious.
And Lin, I forgot to say that I love your new header! Sade!
@ Val:
Thanks Valentina. I know you're a fan, too. It was a b&w foto I found online, until I got busy applying a lil art to it ;-)
Glad you approve.
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I keep saying Happy New Year to folks, but I have a nagging feeling that this isn't going to be a good year.
I'm gonna try to be positive......but.....
I don't think he is overreacting. I get his pain.
@ Reginald:
Happy New Year, Reggie. Please TRY to snatch a lil'l JOY, bruh!
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@ Gayte-keeper:
Ummmm... even after more than a HALF CENTURY??? Hmmm... is there sum'm more you'd like to share, mane?
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I'm thinking that since he just found out about the affair, it's new for him. He probably is visualizing it from the perspective of the time it happened. He probably sees that young fresh man that his beautiful young bride stole away with. They say elders see the past more clearly than the present sometimes.
Happy New Year, Eastsiide!
@ Anna Renee:
No doubt the news stung, so I understand the INITIAL shock/hurt. But damn! Homegirl coulda left, not given him more children, lived a completely different life WITHOUT him, & she chose to STAY with him. That should count for something. AND @ 99 what's he gón do? Buy a Ferarri, some gold chains & hobble w/ his walker into the nearest single bar???? GTHOH!
Happy New Year, Westsiiide.
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@Lin LOLOL! You right, you right!
Once he realizes that physically, he wont get far, he'll continue to shack with her if the divorce goes through.
Hee hee haw!
Like Miz says, maybe the real sad thing about the thing was the misery of the last 50 years of living with regret and missed opportunities only to find out that it was all based on a lie. Who knows? It's difficult enough to try to explain my own relationships or lack thereof let alone someone elses. And yeah, I'm digging topless grandma; if you can't be proud and happy with yourself then who really is going to do it for you?
@ Anna Renee:
ZACKLY! if you're already 99, what's left to do? In fact, WHO is left to do? In fact: WHAT YOU GOT LEFT to DO IT with? & that's also IF he or she LIVES long enough to weather through a divorce!
Craziness, yo!
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@ Curious:
They say 'misery loves company,' so it would be even sadder IF BOTH of these individuals lived in utter misery for the last 77 years!!! Imagine how slowly the days, months, years trickle by when you're miserable? I don't think I'd wait until I was freakin'99 years old to finally make that mad dash!
& oh yeah: BIG Amen(!) on the topless grandma & personal pride comment! I concur.
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You're right. Ain't no fool like an old fool!
He had probably been looking for a legitimate reason to leave for a while
@Daij:
Yes. I guess after more than half a century that would still be deemed as 'legitimate' legally... but what a foolish choice to make so LATE in life!
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He is probably looking at her "this lying azz, cheating woman, that I spent my damn near my whole life with!" Oh, I would be so hurt! Would I leave? No. I just wouldn't have it in me. But, it is a hurtful feeling, I am sure. He probably thought he had one of the good ones and now he isn't so sure. Oh, and yea she could have left..AND? He probably would have rather'd her leave back then, instead if having him living a lie with her.
Personally, I would suck it up though. Unless, he is rich and he wants to buy a new wife? LOL, I dunno.
@ Lesbian Brooklynite:
I'm thinking maybe he could've taken a breaak, a vaca away from her & the stress of that situation, & then come back w/ fresher outlook & a clearer mind. I'm very much in favor of fidelity but there are far worse things a loved one can do to us that would break her faces &/or our hearts in a BIG way.
Thanks for your input.
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