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Thursday, August 28, 2008

Ten Ponderations on Love & Friendship


I'm a curious kinda cat. I think people are much more interesting when they are faced with questions that reveal their true nature. I mean questions that make one think and consider the way they roll through this comic strip called LIFE. So, with this in mind, a while back I composed a survey on one of my other blogs. I figured, why not try it here, for those who are bold or honest enough to face the truth of themselves. So, without further ado, I now present

Moanman’s 10 Ponderations on Love & Friendship:

(A survey by me)


YOU are at your most realest when:

a) you’re comfortable with another soul
b) when you’re drunk off your azz
c) when you’re all alone
d) when buck-naked, after transcendent sex?



LMR: A) When I'm comfortable w/ another soul. When the vibe is right, whether we're engaging in convo or long stretches of silence, everything else just flows.

When someone shows you love, your usual M.O. is to:

a) reciprocate that action in some form
b) panic and out for the nearest exit
c) smile, sigh and let the moment pass
d) take it as a given and do nothing?


LMR: A) Usually I'll return the gesture. Not that I should *feel* OBLIGATED, but I firmly believe that kindness begets kindness, and love should be a sharing of spirits.



When you blatantly LIE to someone you're supposed to love, do you:

a) feel mad guilty about it
b) let it go of it like an accidental fart
c) say a silent prayer
d) assume everyone lies, so what's the biggie?



LMR: A) I feel mad guilty... because lying is an affront to my better nature, but I'm not perfect & sometimes a gentle lie becomes necessary.


Picture it: You’re engaged in a very intimate conversation where certain secrets and truths are revealed. Later on you and your former intimate are no longer speaking, yet, you are still armed with that preciously intimate info… when upset would you:

a) use that precious info against them
b) make a crude joke about it
c) still hold tight to that precious information
d) tell all your friends and have a good loud laugh about it?

LMR: C) Keeping someone's secret is a sacred thing. All we have is our word, and if I promised to keep it earlier, then my word is my bond.

Someone you purportedly love is hurt-up and emotional. *You* did *not* personally cause this hurt, but you’re really NOT in the mood to deal with it. Do you

a) tell them that in effect 'This too Shall Pass'
b) sigh, let them riff and bore you to tears
c) be kind and listen with an understanding ear, perhaps even offering advice
d) simply tell them buck-up, and stop being such a drama queen?



LMR: A & C. I would try A... hoping it will help and that they might become philosophical about their plight. But if that didn't work... *sigh* then C would be the move.

When YOU’VE hurt someone, unintentionally, are you usually sensitive or compassionate enough to even be aware of it? If so, how would generally follow-through to help to close that emotional wound? Would you most likely

a) let time pass and trust them to get over it
b) make an effort to fix what's broken by a call, an email, a letter
c) invite them out to have dinner and a long talk
d) shrug, and question if this friend is a bit too damn sensitive for your comfort level?


LMR: C) Communication is key. Everyone has their stuff and things that upset them that I might unaware of... some having dinner & talking it out helps us to understand where we're BOTH coming from, & hopefully this will squash the madness, literally.


Have you ever meant to tell someone the Gentle Truth, but it came out harsh and hurtfully? If so, did you try to fix it, pretty it up, or simply let that Truth breathe and breed?

LMR: Depending on the situation, I might see the need to let the truth breathe, hoping that they might begin to check themselves.



When a close friend wants to hang out with you, but you’re busy or just not in the mood, your tendency is to:



a) deliver a quick and feeble excuse
b) tell them you’re not feeling it, and hope they’ll understand
c) shrug off your plans, sigh, and accompany them
d) gently remind them that you have a life that doesn’t always have to include them?



LMR: B) Being that I'm an author, I'll often use the little free time I have to write and be creative. So, a true friend would have to understand that, and not take it personally.


If Love is a verb, are your verbal enough for, and to those you love?


LMR: Very, very, vurrrrrrrrrr verbal.


Was the last thing you did in the name of Love?

a) something sweet and kind
b) something sexy and physical
c) something martyr-like and sacrificial
d) something warmly sentimental and lasting?


LMR: C) Sometimes you have to sacrifice for love.

And for those who chose to answer, thanks for the honesty.


One.


Lin

7 comments:

Mizrepresent said...

1. a&c
2. a
3. c
4. c
5. c
6. b
7. I try to put it as kindly as possible, always letting them know that i have their back.

8. b
9. Oh yeah, perhaps too much!
10. a&d

Nice post...

Lovebabz said...

The answers that I left are the onese I am picking! Interesting survey...not what Iwas thinking I might do today...(smile)

YOU are at your most realest when:

a) you’re comfortable with another soul
d) when buck-naked, after transcendent sex?

When someone shows you love, your usual M.O. is to:

a) reciprocate that action in some form

When you blatantly LIE to someone you're supposed to love, do you:

How about do not lie...

Picture it: You’re engaged in a very intimate conversation where certain secrets and truths are revealed. Later on you and your former intimate are no longer speaking, yet, you are still armed with that preciously intimate info… when upset would you:

c) still hold tight to that precious information


Someone you purportedly love is hurt-up and emotional. *You* did *not* personally cause this hurt, but you’re really NOT in the mood to deal with it. Do you

a) tell them that in effect 'This too Shall Pass'
c) be kind and listen with an understanding ear, perhaps even offering advice
d) simply tell them buck-up, and stop being such a drama queen?

When YOU’VE hurt someone, unintentionally, are you usually sensitive or compassionate enough to even be aware of it? If so, how would generally follow-through to help to close that emotional wound? Would you most likely

b) make an effort to fix what's broken by a call, an email, a letter
c) invite them out to have dinner and a long talk


Have you ever meant to tell someone the Gentle Truth, but it came out harsh and hurtfully? Is so, did you try to fix it, pretty it up, or simply let that Truth breathe and breed?
Truth is relative...my truth may not be their truth. What is my goal by telling them "truth"


When a close friend wants to hang out with you, but you’re busy or just not in the mood, your tendency is to:

b) tell them you’re not feeling it, and hope they’ll understand

If Love is a verb, are your verbal enough for, and to those you love?

YES!


Was the last thing you did in the name of Love?

a) something sweet and kind
c) something martyr-like and sacrificial
d) something warmly sentimental and lasting?

QH said...

A & C
A
A
C (or B, depends on whether they really stepped on me, and want to be clever. Then I'll check them with B.)
C
B
B
Verbal about love.
N/A

Keith said...

1.C
2.A
3.A
4.C
5.C
6.C
7.I would try to "pretty it up"-I hate to hurt anyone's feelings.
8.B
9. Very Verbal
10.D

Keith said...

I gotta tell you, I love your choice of music. "Trouble Man " has
always been one of my Favorite Marvin Gaye songs and I love "Four
Women" by Nina Simone...

tout noir said...

YOU are at your most realest when:
a) you’re comfortable with another soul
It's happens rarely but when it does: magic.

When someone shows you love, your usual M.O. is to:
a) reciprocate that action in some form
Love is sacred. Love is Divine. Who am I to see God and not worship? I am not easy to love. To fall in love with me is to know me intimately and that's a gift I give out sparingly and only to those I already love.

When you blatantly LIE to someone you're supposed to love, do you:
a) feel mad guilty about it
Love and Lies are mortal enemies. The two don't mix well in my shot glass. Honesty has been a weakness; I am honest to a fault, especially about things that really matter. When I lie to someone I love, it's usually to spare them pain, rarely for my own benefit.

Picture it: You’re engaged in a very intimate conversation where certain secrets and truths are revealed. Later on you and your former intimate are no longer speaking, yet, you are still armed with that preciously intimate info… when upset would you:
c) still hold tight to that precious information
I hate to betray trust.

Someone you purportedly love is hurt-up and emotional. *You* did *not* personally cause this hurt, but you’re really NOT in the mood to deal with it. Do you
a) tell them that in effect 'This too Shall Pass'
b) sigh, let them riff and bore you to tears
c) be kind and listen with an understanding ear, perhaps even offering advice
d) simply tell them buck-up, and stop being such a drama queen?
All of the above. My moods are transient. Love isn't.

When YOU’VE hurt someone, unintentionally, are you usually sensitive or compassionate enough to even be aware of it? If so, how would generally follow-through to help to close that emotional wound? Would you most likely
b) make an effort to fix what's broken by a call, an email, a letter
I hate to dwell on issues. I would rather address the problem quickly, make sure it's resolved and move on.

Have you ever meant to tell someone the Gentle Truth, but it came out harsh and hurtfully? If so, did you try to fix it, pretty it up, or simply let that Truth breathe and breed?
I usually say something like this: "I am sorry if that came out harsh. I didn't mean it to come out that way. Hope you understand that this is coming from a place of love."

When a close friend wants to hang out with you, but you’re busy or just not in the mood, your tendency is to:
b) tell them you’re not feeling it, and hope they’ll understand
Close friends understand. I have nothing to hide.

If Love is a verb, are your verbal enough for, and to those you love?
Yes. I love 110%.

Was the last thing you did in the name of Love?
c) something martyr-like and sacrificial
I am not great at sentimental, sweet stuff. I give out physcial stuff like candy to any cute boy, depending on how horny I feel. For love, I sacrifice everything.

rebecca said...

My Heart Leaps Up

My heart leaps up when I behold

A rainbow in the sky:

So was it when my life began;

So is it now I am a man;

So be it when I shall grow old,

Or let me die!

The Child is father of the Man;

And I could wish my days to be

Bound each to each by natural piety.

~~~by Age Of Conan gold