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Monday, July 2, 2012

*About Motherfuckas, And Why They Are So Necessary

Just recently, I experienced a great and profound disappointment in my life. Yes, I know. Boo-hoo. Woe is me. Within this business of living, just existing, and having these prolonged human experiences, much like everyone else, I’m not exactly a neophyte in the treacherous fields and hills and valleys of disappointment.

But this particular strain of disappointment, it hurt me so much, I'd begun to feel it down to the depths of my very soul. When the soul hurts, please believe... that's some deep and very serious business.

Without going into great detail or naming anyone's name, I will say, I’d lost my faith in all humankind. I'd forgotten to Trust Only in God as a rule. Man is full of trick bones, tainted hearts and bullshit parts, and thus, man is bound to hurt you, bullshit you, disappoint you, lie to you, smile in your face and stab you in the back with such cunning and swift precision that it can be mad ALARMING! Most times, you won’t even see the blade coming.

When someone does this to you, whether they be a man or a woman, it’s a Motherfucker’s Move.

In life, we need to be keenly aware of the Motherfuckers. They live, breathe, bob, weave and co-habitate among us. They secretly dance in the shadows and sometimes waltz in broad daylight. They are madness incarnate, but with sanity's eyes. They can sneak up on us and often surprise us because they'll say or do the wickedest of shit. But most of all, they are everywhere, yo!


You can’t and you won’t always spot them right away. Why? Photobucket

Because Motherfuckers are shape-shifters, damn it! Act like you know!

They can wear the face of a friend or your boss, your family, or even your lover.


What makes them true 'Motherfuckers' is that they won’t really care enough about you to support you when you’re down, or have your back when that back is against the wall. When you’re hurt, when you’re stressed, when you're struggling, when you’re just trying to keep your head above water, that’s when the Motherfuckers will show you their True Face.


That’s when a Motherfucker will rise from the oozing dens of their wretched primordial Motherfucker-ness.

So, upon the Great Disappointment in my life, caused by another kind of foul-ass Bearilla Motherfucker entirely, I sought friendship, instead of stress. I sought understanding, instead of madness. I sought empathy, instead of selfishness. And I sought love from those who claimed to love me.

When you love someone, and they require space... you give them space.
When you love someone, and they ask for peace… you give them peace.
When you love someone, and they need to be alone… you give them their alone time.


But a Motherfucker won’t care about any of that shit.
A Motherfucker has his or her own agenda.

A Motherfucker will make demands upon you.
A Motherfucker will make erroneous accusations about you.
A Motherfucker will not give a shit about you or your feelings.
A Motherfucker will always find some new shit to bitch about.
A Motherfucker will say some shit with no other objective than to Piss. You. Off.

And yes, a Motherfucker is chronically insecure.

A Motherfucker will secretly smile at your misfortune.
A Motherfucker doesn’t care if there’s an illness or even a death in your family.
A Motherfucker will only crave more and more and more attention.
A Motherfucker will drain you of your last ounce of energy.
And then that Motherfucker will still ask for more.
A Motherfucker can’t stand it when you tell them NO!


A Motherfucker truly believes they are the planet’s most important person.
And yet, that same Motherfucker needs constant emotional reinforcement.
A Motherfucker will try to make you doubt your own abilities.
A Motherfucker is truly a miserable human being.


But I want to give all The Real Motherfuckers their rightful due.

You Motherfuckers inspire me to be the best that I can be.

You Motherfuckers give me new confidence in myself.
You Motherfuckers make me realize the hero within me.
You Motherfuckers make something in me rise higher.
You Motherfuckers stoke my creativity’s fire.
You Motherfuckers are soooooo damn necessary.
You Motherfuckers make me stronger than I ever knew I could be.
You Motherfuckers force me to make a LIAR out of you.


So, thank you, Motherfuckers.

Even if you don’t know you’re a Motherfucker.

I know it now. I hope... NO.... I'm quite sure that others will recognize your Motherfucked-ness, too.



* repost


Teri and the cats of Curlz and Swirlz said...

Sometimes the more I see of mankind or womankind, the more I love my cats...but somehow hope springs eternal and we keep putting one paw in front of the other and go on...

Chet said...

Okay I'm strapping up because somebody has done you wrong. Of all the people they could have fucked over they chose you and without good reason. This type of shyte angers me, I too know what it is like to trust and rspect someone and they turn around and show me nothing but disrespect and sometime hatred.

My brotha let no man put us assunder. Fuck em and feed them brunt beans.

Keep in mind that "man will fail you everytime." My brotha you deserve better and you certainly deserve happiness. Much love

Roger Poladopoulos said...

This is an outstanding post and a great personal accomplishment for you: your triumph over all the MF's of this world! Put them in their place and move on! Life is too short to stress the insufferable fools!

Mizrepresent said...

Oh my, yes indeed Bro Pen! Motherfuckers are just meant to make our lives miserable, but once we recognize the MF, it's over. I truly loved this post, and for me it's about recognizing who is good in your life and who is not and swinging the blade to cut motherfuckers out and for good. I can do bad myself...i know, a wellknown cliche flickering through time, but it's true. I don't need another motherfucker trying to fuck up my dreams, nor my reality, so middle fingerup! Big ups to my President! Hang in there! Great post!

♥ CG ♥ said...

I feel ya. I had a 'well, damn' experience around this time last year. Like you said "And yes, a Motherfucker is chronically insecure.". That's what it boils down to. When you know this critical fact little tends to surprise you but it doesn't necessarily make you feel any better.

SLC said...

As Holy as I think I am, I still say amen.
I picked a great time to resurface.


WynnSong said...

Awwwww man.....sorry you're having to put up with this again. Life's a bitch sometimes....yep...I said it. Hang in there and know there are a few of us that really do care and will always be in corner......

Val said...

Wow, Lin. Don't let those people get you down. There are always going to be those types in our lives we just have to make sure we don't give them too much access to our lives.

iAmA gaYte-keeper said...

Know all too well about mofos!

stephanie. said...

been there, felt all that ..sometimes i think i'm still trapped there because i care too much..

Tia's Real Talk said...

Hey...LONG TIME NO SEE/HEAR!! I loved this post!! LOl. It seems like they are one with haters!! LOL Nice read!!

Anna Renee said...

I'm feeling you on this, Brother Eastside! So alls left is to love the Motherfucker for being a motherfucker!

Strange, but this past Sunday I was complaining about one to a friend, and I was going off abt the MFer. Overtalked my sisterfriend who was trying to complain to me about HER MFer!

Later it HIT me: Without that MFer, my life would be a hell of my own making! That MFer taught me how to tighten my GAME! Without that MFer I'd still be measurable weaker! REAL F'ing TALK!!

That profound realization humbled me. I cant even be angry at the MFer, but must congratulate!! With a profound smile in my heart. God shole is clever, to use the MFer to make us great.

So the rest is getting over the detritus of hurt feelings.

Moanerplicity said...

@ Teri:

Sometimes I feel the very same way, & I don't currently have any pets.


Moanerplicity said...

@ Chet:

Thanks for having my back, man. I really DO appreciate it. Maybe the mofos have a place in all our lives, but it hurts to find that those we trust/love/depend upon most are often the very ones causing so much stress, unrest & emotional havoc in our lives.


Moanerplicity said...

@ Roger:

Thanks man. And I completely agree w/ your sentiment. 'Life is INDEED too short' for this madness!


Moanerplicity said...

@ Miz:

You wrote: "for me it's about recognizing who is good in your life and who is not and swinging the blade to cut motherfuckers out and for good."

I smell ya for real. I'm finding that this has become crucial & necessary for me to do, in some cases, for my own sense of health & sanity.


Moanerplicity said...

@ CG:

I too have been having those 'well damn' experiences. They are both simutaneously eye-opening & chill-making. Sometimes you just don't expect this from certain people, but then, in the end, people will always be WHO THEY ARE if you really pay attention.


Moanerplicity said...


Thanks for checking in, bruh. Hope all is chill in SLC-ville.


Moanerplicity said...

@ Wynn:

Thanks for the support, my friend. You know how life can throw curves & fast balls directly at our heads... & it behooves us to wear a helmet & maybe even a condom over our emotions.


Moanerplicity said...

@ Val:

Yes I know, Val. As the latter part of this rant reveals I haven't allowed the mofos to completely fade me... in fact, it's been just the opposite. I'm discovering new strengths, new emotional skillz & newer ways of dealing w/ this nonsensical madness in the aftermath.


Moanerplicity said...

@ gayte-keeper:

They are everywhere & none of us ever gets a free ride from the madness of mofos.


Moanerplicity said...

@ Stephanie:

Thanks for commenting. Yes. Caring too much can often get us in trouble. But once we can shut that off & shut it down, mofos will finally get the message.


Moanerplicity said...

@ Tia:

Heeeey! Welcome back to blogging! Glad you made it by my spot. Yes, haters & mofos must breed in the same oozing cess pools. Maybe they're biological cousins. *ponders*


Moanerplicity said...

@ Anna May:

Yes, indeed. I think you GET it.

Well, you may just be a tad more ummm... self-actualized than I am currently. While I do recognize that mofos, as miserables as they are, serve a larger purpose, not everyone will react favorably or evolve in a positive way from the damage they do. They can desytroy people's confidence, sense of self, people's faith & sense of well-being. They can ruin lives! And sometimes, they just do it for shits & giggles.

I just happen to be at a point in my journey where I can see beyond the clouds, the haze & the BS & recognize a mofo for just what they are: a vexation to the spirit.
Thankfully, my spirit is not some thin, little weak thing subject to catching the vapors.

The Creator didn't make me that way.

Thanks for your input, S.W.


Daij said...

i've got to start reading your blog entries more regularly. This is the 5th consecutive one that I've read. And I can relate to all of them.

Moanerplicity said...

Thank you, Daij. There is usually some meaning & a method to my blogging madness.